What Makes a Happy Marriage ?

by duncanr

According to a recent poll, married couples are most happy 2 years 11 months after their marriage. They are having great sex, done enough DIY to stamp their own personality on their house, and are comfortable with each others company.

So what makes a happy marriage/relationship?

Here are the results of the survey carried out by the web site confetti.co.uk

Top 10 things that lead to a happy marriage (relationship)

Enjoy 1 hour and 15 minutes ‘me time’ each day
Saying ‘thank you’ for helping out with household chores
One country walk together a month
Partner offering to make a cup of tea once a day
Spend 24 minutes having a heart-to-heart a day before bed
Kiss and make up following any arguments before falling asleep
Five cuddles and at least one ‘I love you’ a day
Four texts, calls or emails whilst at work a day
Three nights curled up on the sofa together a week
Husband compliments their wife twice a day

Source . . .

So what do you think? Do you agree with the above? Have you got any suggestions of your own to add to that list ?

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25 Comments to “What Makes a Happy Marriage ?”

  1. “Spend 24 minutes having a heart-to-heart a day before bed”

    I have much better things to do than sit and talk shit for 24 minutes :roll:

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  2. “Saying ‘thank you’ for helping out with household chores”

    It would REALLY help if he did anything apart from sitting on his arse …. so a thank you is out of the question!

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  3. “Enjoy 1 hour and 15 minutes ‘me time’ each day”

    Can someone please explain ‘me time’? Is that when me is running around after everyone else? In that case I think I do it about 8 hours a day.

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  4. “One country walk together a month”

    Haha … you’re kidding right? I don’t fancy being mugged once a month.

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  5. “Partner offering to make a cup of tea once a day”

    If partner knew how to turn on a tap to fill the kettle it would also help.

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  6. “Kiss and make up following any arguments before falling asleep”

    You have to speak to argue, right?

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  7. “Five cuddles and at least one ‘I love you’ a day”

    Pretty darn difficult to tell someone with earphones on with music blaring in their ears that you love them :lol:

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  8. “Four texts, calls or emails whilst at work a day”

    I’m a really busy person.

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  9. Morning Julie, where’s me fecking porridge wench?

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  10. “Three nights curled up on the sofa together a week”

    SOMEONE is going to land up on the floor, the sofa’s not THAT big!

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  11. “Husband compliments their wife twice a day”

    I don’t own one of those.

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  12. Enjoy 1 hour and 15 minutes ‘me time’ each day
    I get more than that anyway.

    Saying ‘thank you’ for helping out with household chores
    Hmm he should be helping out, he made the most mess

    One country walk together a month
    We live near he sea we love to walk there.

    Partner offering to make a cup of tea once a day
    He makes it too strong, you could stand on it.

    Spend 24 minutes having a heart-to-heart a day before bed
    A DAY ?

    Kiss and make up following any arguments before falling asleep
    We don’t really argue

    Five cuddles and at least one ‘I love you’ a day
    He’s 6 ft and I’m 5 ft 3 and he never wants to bend / stoop so he has to be sitting down. I love him, he loves me I told him so.

    Four texts, calls or emails whilst at work a day
    Get real!

    Three nights curled up on the sofa together a week
    Get realer !!!!

    Husband compliments their wife twice a day
    This kind of marriage is soooo not us Dunc.
    I’m not that insecure.

    My ideal husband is the one I have. When he was well he always did his thing and me mine. We complimented each other by not intruding on each others space. Just because he’s your husband/ wife you’re not joined at the hip. Respect their choices in ugly clothes lol ( you can always hide them) and generally just accept each others flaws. If you need to spice up your relationship ALL THE TIME you don’t really have one. I don’t buy him gifts only for birthdays or Christmas , I bought them when he least expected them. Things he wanted like remote control helicopters . He used to fly so loves these kind of toys. So what if he crashed them. He had fun doing it.
    You don’t stay together forever living by rules I think you just adapt to compliment each other. It’s been an easy road for us.

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  13. See you ladies have it all wrong. Flipping through channels a couple weeks ago we came across Joel Osteen sermon at a point where he was talking about women trying to get men to do more chores.

    So instead of badgering him for what he doesn’t do, you should compliment him for what he does which will only encourage him to do more.

    So now the missus says “Honey you know it really turns me on when you clean the cat litter and I can see your muscles bulging.”

    It doesn’t work but we still get a laugh.

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    • hmm…either you have a big assed cat or you are waaay of of shape!! :-) i do get your point though and it seems so simple so why doesnt it work?

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  14. Bearman, that’s what I’d call behaviour modification!!!

    On a serious vein, which we haven’t tapped yet! Make sure that your communications are clear, don’t make up stuff .. check out what your partner really means if you’re uncertain.

    I’d have to agree that 24 minutes a day might be a strain on some men…

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  15. naw, i dont buy any of it really. i honestly believe that what makes a marriage work is A LOT of fair fighting! note: must be fair and respectful on both sides….i think fighting fair forces a couple to communicate their needs effectively. this way they both know the boundaries. i think in the end that may keep them together for a lot of years.

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  16. I’ve got to be honest – a huge majority of that list are things that would lead to divorce and not prevent it as far as I’m concerned!

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  17. I don’t know about the fair fighting as fisticuffs or just serious arguments as we certainly don’t fight but you must respect boundaries. You don’t own that person so if he/she loves you and are committed they don’t overstep them.
    Even husbands/wives need space.
    No space, no marriage. Anyway who wants to be around each other 24/7?

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